25 Jun 2007
If I had my child to raise over again,
I would finger paint more and point fingers less.
I would do less correcting and more connecting.
I would take my eyes off my watch and watch with my eyes.
I would care to know less and know to care more.
I would take more hikes and fly more kites.
I would stop playing serious and seriously play.
I would run through more fields and gaze more at stars.
I would do more hugging and less tugging.
I would be firm less often and affirm more often.
I would build self-esteem first and a house later.
I would teach less about the love of power,
And more about the power of love.
Ain’t this beautiful people? I am taking the “building self-esteem first and a house later” part VERY seriously and slowly letting the house go. The house is clean but not spic and span. Once upon a time I used to wipe the sink and the tub bone dry every time after I used it. Sigh….
I feel that I am lot more relaxed with infant than with toddler. Guess that’s pretty common. No wonder the tamil adage says, “Moothadhu mozhai, iilayadhu kalai”(meaning the second child is lot more confident the first one). Requesting a quick show of hands to let me know how many moms with two kids feel the same way as I do.
9 Responses for "If I had my child to raise over again"
Thats really beautiful. Im glad most of the moms today realize this now than regret later.
Thats more hugging and less “Tugging”, no?
BTW, Im not so sure about the Tamil proverb. Or may be me and sis are an exception!! 😉
Yep, that is less tugging. Thanks for correcting Boo. I will edit post to reflect correction.
Yeah…I’ve read this one before and its like an oath we all moms should take!
I don’t know yet abt the relevance of the proverb in our household…but by the likes of it in 5 short months, that just might be how things turn out.
This Mozhai/Kozhai thing, I am not sure about it. So far I have only seen the opposite… Did you read about this birth order study result that is roaming around the mail circuit.. http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2007/06/21/health/webmd/main2964494.shtml
I’ve read this one before to UTBT. Yet, it never ceases to completely captivate me each and every time I read it. Beautiful, is it not ?
About the second one being a lot more confident – right now – both my kids have their own set of weapons to unleash ……. and the balance tips either way …… depending on the situation.
That was beautiful! And can’t say on how easy or tuogh it is with the second child as I’m yet to conceive mine 😀 I get cold feet whenever we think of second child. I know we will surely have our second one but when – we don’t know? I guess that god only knows! 😀
Tharini, Yay, I have company! We shall compare notes every now and then!
Gauri, you will be the one I will be turning to for pointers 5-6 years from now!
Nids, welcome to my blog. No time is the right time! Hubby and self dived right in. Partly because I, for some reason, thought that I might have just one child. One of those weird premonitions based on nothing.
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