26 Jun 2008
Its been 4 weeks since the mother became a faculty in her daughter’s school. The mother and the daughter have settled in to a nice routine. They leave the house together and come back together. If the mother happens to walk in to the daughter’s classroom for some errand, the daughter comes running and gives a hug, kiss…yeah, the whole shebang. If the daughter happens to catch a glimpse of the mother through the window, she bangs the window to get the mother’s attention and waves all bright and cheery. She even calls her classmates and proudly points, ‘That is MY mommy’.
But it took quite a bit of learning from the mother’s part. Remember the mother’s bellyache about the lunch box issue? The first week, the mother did go overboard on the same issue. She checked the daughter’s lunch box during her break *gasp* pulled the daughter aside to feed her the food *gasp to power of gasp*. The poor daughter was seen walking around as if she crushed by an invisible boulder. At times she even hid under the table when the mother walked by.
But within two days, thanks to the over thinking and over analyzing mother’s brain that worked at the speed of light, a control system was established. Thus materialized an unspoken unwritten pact.
For the mother: When in school the child is cared for by HER teacher. Do not, do not, do not interfere.
For the child: When in school, you listen to what your teacher says. You were asked to sit out of circle time because you behaved inappropriately. Amma can’t do anything about it baby and NO you cannot come and start working in my class because you are unhappy with the situation you got yourself in to.
Guess even ‘mothering’ can become annoying, both to the child and to the mother, if the mother does not accept her boundaries.
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Hi,
Your blog looks very good. Infact wanted to leave a comment on your earlier post itself, but somehow missed.
Even I keep wondering sometimes about what would happen if I take up a job in kiddo’s play school. I was thinking a lot on it and eventually dropped due to various other reasons, but have started to re consider it again..
And the post….. so true!
Great that you’ve picked up on that so early! Way to go, UTBT 🙂
Chula is way too smart to figure all this so soon, and so is her mother!! 🙂
Now, when is Mieja joining in this fun?!
I can’t help it – Can we come watch? This is the ultimate premise for a reality show. If not, a great sitcom – “How I Hid From My Mother”. 🙂
My mother taught in the same school that I attended for about three years. I am sure she has tales to tell. Later, when I was in high school, we had to share the same town bus for commuting. I have tales to tell.
gasp to the power of gasp!! I dig! Guess the mother instincts are sooo much stronger! The whole situation sounded very cute….keep updating!
And let me take the opportunity to say that I love this new space and this new look. Its so cooling to sit under that banyan tree and catch up on CHula and Meija’s world!
Thanks Aargee. Working in the same school as your child is a whole new ball game. If there had been a situation where I would have been in the same class as my children, I would have most definitely not accepted the position. So good luck with your decision.
Thanks Suki.
Reva, Sept 2008 is the big date. I am all nervous and jittery.
Deep Trance, didn’t I mention about the establishemnt of a control system? In the first week, great reality show material. Now….nah pretty boring mother-daughter mush. Tell your tales-na!
Hello madam T, how are things? Thanks for your compliment.
Really nice makeover! Love the colors, the banners, and of course the stories.
Lovely makeover UTBT. Here I was thinking what happened to you, still lolling around your old blog…it didn’t occur to me, that you may have a different blog all together. Anyhoo, nice page and congrats on the new job.
Holy cow! I am pretty sure I don’t have the nerves to be in the same building as my offspring all day and night :). I once told a co-worker that work was like vacation. (Sadly though, it gave him the notion that I was not busy enough…). Nice looks by the way.
I love this new design! Perfect timing for summer :). Very clean and crisp and uncluttered. Like T says, feel like sitting under the banyan tree and listening to the tales you weave…only you’re not posting too often :D. At least serve us some peanuts to munch on!
Alright, enjoy summer and take care
-altoid
K3, Shobana thanks.
Altoid, thanks. TW, Iam not a a tease.I too wish I could post frequently 🙂
SGopalK, welcome here. Your co-worker’s misinterpetation is a riot 🙂
Oh, I taught in my son’s nursery so many years ago. I think I will have to blog about it- I’ll tell you when I do:)
The new domain is gorgeous:) Congrats!
That was a great post UTBT 🙂
The last line said it all – ‘Guess even ‘mothering’ can become annoying, both to the child and to the mother, if the mother does not accept her boundaries.’
I keep trying to remind myself of this every now and then 🙂
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