“That particularly galled me, because it implied the immortality of those left behind: You will live forever in my memory, because I will live forever! I AM YOUR GOD NOW, DEAD BOY! I OWN YOU! Thinking you won’t die is yet another side effect of dying.”

— John Green, The Fault In Our Stars.

As is I am lost when it comes to condolences and I stop at ‘I am sorry for your loss’. This feeling only intensified after reading FIOS. Are we telling what we tell to make the dead more than what he/she originally was? Does death morph the ordinary to the angelic? In our attempt to speak no ill about the dead are we forgetting that our time too shall come?

All these thoughts come back flooding as I read about Robin Williams. Because I want to say something, but don’t know what. So I am going to leave with his Good Will Hunting dialogue that helped me and am sure will continue helping me, “You’ll have bad times, but it’ll always wake you up to the good stuff you weren’t paying attention to.”